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A wedding has hundreds of small decisions, but only a handful of them are truly urgent at any given moment. The trick is knowing which ones. After planning celebrations of every size across Ayodhya, we have found that families who follow a simple month-by-month rhythm enjoy the journey far more — and spend less on last-minute fixes.
Use this checklist as a starting point. Every family is different, so move things around to suit your dates, traditions and budget.
12 to 9 months before: set the foundation
This is the thinking stage. Before you book anything, agree on the big picture as a family.
- Fix the date and muhurat with your family pandit, and keep one or two backup dates in mind.
- Set a realistic budget and decide roughly how it splits between venue, food, decor and entertainment.
- Draft the guest list — even a rough number shapes every other decision.
- Decide on the functions: haldi, mehendi, sangeet, wedding and reception, or a combined version.
8 to 6 months before: book the big pieces
Peak-season dates fill up quickly, so lock in the vendors that are hardest to replace first.
- The venue, or the ground and tent and mandap setup if you are hosting at a lawn or farmhouse.
- Catering — ask for a tasting before you finalise.
- Photographer and videographer.
- Rooms for outstation guests.
Booking one team for tent, lights, flowers and food means one phone call on the wedding day instead of six. It is the single easiest way to reduce stress.
5 to 3 months before: shape the look and feel
Now the fun part begins. Choose a colour palette and theme for each function, then build everything around it.
- Finalise lighting and flower decoration designs.
- Book music — DJ, band or singers — and baraat essentials like a bagghi or vintage car.
- Shop for outfits and jewellery, leaving time for alterations.
- Send save-the-dates to guests travelling from far away.
2 months to 2 weeks before: confirm everything
- Send invitations and keep track of RSVPs.
- Share a final guest count with your caterer and tent team.
- Prepare a function-by-function timeline and share it with every vendor.
- Arrange guest transport, a help desk and parking support.
- Pay advances and keep receipts and contact numbers in one folder.
The final week: hand over and breathe
By now the planning is done. Appoint one trusted person — or your event coordinator — as the single point of contact for vendors, so the couple and parents are not answering calls during the rituals.
Pack an emergency kit (safety pins, medicines, chargers, snacks), confirm arrival times one last time, and get some rest. You have planned a beautiful celebration. Now it is time to enjoy it.
